

Trust and the Fractured Self
It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them Confucius We talk about trust a lot. Trust in ourselves, in others, in the benevolence of the universe. Relationships are built on trust, and trustworthiness is high on the list of qualities we seek in our partners in life, work and love. Trust is defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something. Trusting and being trusted are key elements of self-esteem, str


How to deal with burnout
Burnout is real. It is something that can happen to all of us, even when you are doing what you love (especially when you are doing what you love). While the experience of it can often feel uncomfortable or scary, burnout can actually be a gift that shows us a new way of showing up and engaging with our world. On the other side of a particularly ambitious period of growth and creation this year, I experienced my own bout of burnout, leaving me confused and curious about how i


The Gift of the Blind Spot
Let me introduce myself: I am the founder of a Canadian charity called Shift Happens Coaching. I have spent the past eight years with my head down, hammering pegs into holes, building a strong foundation on which this organization can stand. The work I have been doing is important and it is not for the faint of heart. To achieve charitable status is momentous. To say I wanted to quit many times would be an understatement. What kept me going were the faces and voices of the vu


Asking for Help
When I first said yes to writing this article, I assumed it would be a breeze: Not only do I teach the skill of asking for help but, like many of the leaders I coach, I think that I have gotten pretty good at asking for help when I need it. In my enthusiasm for this topic, it was not until I sat down to write, hit a creative block and spent the better portion of a week quietly procrastinating while getting increasingly anxious that it occurred to me: Am I really attempting to

The Importance of Intentional Endings
As a culture, we resist endings. We love beginnings with their potential and possibility. But endings? We would rather bury hurt, breakups, and bad blood between partners and end things quickly, anxious to move onto the next mountain. And so we cut and run. Have you ever watched yourself leave before something is really over? Sure, you're still there in body, but your mind, your emotions and your heart are a million miles away. We exit emotionally to avoid acknowledging failu


Four Steps to Financial Freedom
When I start working with clients, there are often a few goals that I see come up again and again. Having a healthy financial situation - like having a healthy body, living environment, or self-image - is part of a solid foundation to access deeper levels of courageous growth and spark the change you want to see in your life. We all absorbed early messaging about money: What it means, how we can get it, what we can and cannot do with it. These messages and the subsequent choi

5 Reasons Visualizing and Setting Intentions will Change Your Life
"You can't become something you can't imagine." The room grows silent, and I pause to let this sink in. My audience is a group of professionals gathered to talk about visioning and goal setting. As many participants admitted upon entering, two hours on a Saturday morning feels like a lot of time to take out of their busy weekend schedules to indulge in practices like sitting still and visualizing the future. But by the time the two hours had concluded, most participants walke


Discovering the dance, executing without effort
I am standing in front of the room, no agenda and no notes, leading a two day workshop on a topic I feel like I am only beginning to understand. With my co-leader, we set out to teach a group of women the luxurious, abundant permission that we ourselves longed for: A weekend fully focused on discovering our pleasure, power, and presence. The catch? We had to plan and execute the whole 24 hour event with 80% of our time lazer focused on the co-leader relationship, and only 20%


What to look for when hiring a coach
If you have never been coached before, finding the right coach, and even knowing what to look for in a great coach, can be a bit daunting. A few tips and guidelines (from my perspective) are below: Find a credentialed coach The coaching industry - really only about 40 years old - is governed by the International Coach Federation (ICF) that holds the standards and certification process to ensure coaches are trained professionals and comply with ethical codes. As the industry h


What Makes a Great Coaching Topic?
"I had to google it," a client confessed to me on the phone last week. "I mean, I just want to make the most of these sessions, and I always feel like I'm picking the wrong topic." While reassuring her that no topic could ever be wrong, I realized that offering some guidelines for choosing a good coaching topic might be useful for my clients and non-clients alike. Unlike a prescribed, one-size-fits-all self-help program, co-active coaching asks the client to name her own topi